It happened again.
Every cramp, every stomach pain is like a knife being twisted in my heart, reminder that my body is destroying the child I was carrying.
Just when I think I've settled this out in my head another jab of pain throws me right back into it.
As soon as I start thinking it must be nothing, just a little spotting, I feel the twist of my muscles mentally pulling me apart.
I've done this 5 times and every time is different than the last and sometimes and doesn't hardly affect me at all but this time I just feel sad and angry.
Sad that I had just gotten my head around the idea of having another little one, sad that I was just starting to get excited about the thought of it, sad that in 7 months we won't be in a surgical room getting prepped for a C-section.
Angry because I was given a gift that I didn't know I wanted and than it was ripped from me, angry that my body doesn't do this well, angry that there is nothing I could have done, no way I could have prevented it, and no way I can change it.
I think it's even that much harder that no one knows. That there is no one there to lean on or to sympathize with. But isn't this the reason we chose to wait to tell everyone? In case this were to happen AGAIN, like it has so many times before? It doesn't make it any easier, to suffer in silence when my heart is screaming to be heard. Not that I want anyone to know now, this being the week of Thanksgiving and I'm having a hard time feeling the spirit in it, and I want to crawl into a hole and not come out until I don't have to think it or feel it anymore. But since no one knows I get to plaster on my best "nothing's wrong here" face and be happy when all I want to do is cry for something I only had for a short time.
Life goes on, but sometimes I wish I could pause so I could process this before I'm expected to just move along with it.